Wise advice from Pastor Greear. Below is a snippet…
Be patient. She is different than you. If she does need to be “changed,” you will do that not by being harsh with her or by criticizing her. You will change her by your unconditional love and adoration. Think about it, that’s how Jesus changes us. He accepts and loves us into His image. Paul tells us to love our wives like that.
Your primary role with her is lover, not pastor-teacher. I see a lot of young, spiritually-minded guys really screw this one up. I did. Yes, you are to “present her faultless to God,” but you are primarily her Christ-like lover. If you notice that she is not doing her quiet time every day, don’t lecture her about it. If you think she is too concerned about her looks, don’t preach to her about the sin of vanity. If she does indeed struggle with those things, you won’t correct her by teaching her, you’ll only build a feeling of condemnation in her that translates into resentment and her fantasizing about your premature death. Praise her, extol her virtues. Notice the strengths and assume the weaknesses and not visa versa. Over time, the love you show her and the model you are to her will produce more change in her than one of your brilliantly crafted homiletics…
When I was a young pastor, a wise older pastor communicated to me an unforgettable sentence: “C.J., prepare your church for suffering.” I’ve never forgotten that sentence. It’s a sentence that informed my 27 privileged years in pastoral ministry. It is a sentence that reminded me over the years to prepare the church I love and serve for suffering. It is a sentence I have shared many times with several pastors over the years. And it is why I approached Mark, Al, and Lig with the idea of having Matt Chandler take my session.
9 All who fashion idols are nothing, and the things they delight in do not profit. Their witnesses neither see nor know, that they may be put to shame. 10 Who fashions a god or casts an idol that is profitable for nothing? 11 Behold, all his companions shall be put to shame, and the craftsmen are only human. Let them all assemble, let them stand forth. They shall be terrified; they shall be put to shame together.
You probably have been to a marriage conference before. Or you may be the type that avoids them altogether! While this conference will address many of the obvious issues (communication, conflict and intimacy just to name a few), the goal of this conference is intended to be so much more.
We want you to leave with a much bigger vision of marriage both for your own marriage and the marriages of those to whom God has called you to minister.
You see, marriage is a big thing in the Bible. But it’s a big thing because it’s about things bigger than marriage itself. There’s something about biblical marriage that is wrapped up with the very heart of the relationship between God and his people. Nowhere is that more clear than in Paul’s letter to the Ephesians.
That’s why this year’s general sessions will be structured by the book of Ephesians. So often, we want to jump right to the section of husbands and wives in chapter 5. But if you do that, you miss the bigger context in which these verses find their life and meaning. We will discover together that marriage is a call unto God and unto one another. We’ll learn to love as one and even fight as one. And we’ll explore the calling to be husband and wife in union with Christ within the body of Christ.
Whether you’re a pastor, counselor, small group leader, teacher…whether you’re married or unmarried…our 2010 Conference will, in the words of Ephesians, “equip [you] for the work of ministry, for building up the body of Christ.“
My initial response to this video… tears, speechless, re-evaluating my entire life. (Warning: Graphic Footage)
Orissa has one of the worst records for violence against Christians, due in part to the activities of a religious fundamentalist group. Many churches have been destroyed and Christian workers continue to be attacked. There is a law prohibiting conversion and, since 2000, baptism requires the permission of the government. About a year ago, Hindu radicals went on a “bloody rampage that left 50,000 Christians fleeing for their lives into the state’s forests.” (GFA, 2009).
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